Monday, November 11, 2019

iMessage conversation after spending 22 consecutive hours together



8:58 pm 



Cam: *close up photo of penne pasta with garlic, chunked tomatoes, grilled chicken, basil, and garlic bread in a white plastic bowl*


Cam: *close up photo of Elena and Cam's hands intertwined in natural lighting*


9:15 pm


Elena: looks good


9:20 pm



Cam: why are you upset with me


Elena: just don't like when you point out that i ask too many questions


Elena: feels bad


Cam: i'm sorry i could have been more kind


Elena: it's fine


Cam: i want to be more kind with you


Elena: what do you mean


Cam: i mean when you're upset it makes me upset


Cam: i want to be more kind with you so as to upset you less


Cam: if i can do that and still be honest and upfront with you


Elena: i think i have fairly tough skin for a lot of things that one just hits home i guess


Cam: ill just try to be more considerate


Cam: if im an irredeemable asshole then please let me know


Elena: you're not


Elena: i'm alright


Cam: okay


Cam: i think im not fun to be with sometimes


Elena: i had fun with you today


Elena: i could tell your energy was getting lower as the night went on


Elena: you seemed annoyed with me by the time we were eating


Cam: i wanted to be alone i think


Cam: or i was uncontrollably acting in a way that makes other people around me uncomfortable


Elena: you know you can just tell me when you want to be alone


Elena: i'd prefer that over feeling like a nuisance


Cam: that's what i mean


Cam: i make people feel like they are a nuisance


Elena: it's nothing you do


Elena: it's how i interpret myself


Elena: when you're quiet and calm and i am still making jokes or talking excessively i feel annoying because it's clear that you are not at that same level as me


Cam: if we're doing nothing then it's not annoying


Cam: if i am trying to focus on something, and i think it's obvious when i am, then i just don't want to be distracted


Cam: but just because i seem 'calm,' 'quiet,' doesn't mean you have to be calm and quiet too


Elena: well i know i don’t have to be but it’s hard not to feel like i’m overbearing or too much


Elena: like the moment you said i ask so many questions that was it and in my brain you had basically confirmed that i am intensely annoying and i hated myself for everything i’d said for like the past hour


Elena: and had i been quiet or calm or at your level then it wouldn’t have happened and i wouldn’t have felt annoying


Cam: i should have just considered your question for what it was and answered it


Cam: instead i used the question to make a general statement about your character


Cam: the general statement wasn’t about your asking too many questions


Cam: it was about your questions suggesting some kind of weak mindedness


Cam: which was just some kind of self imposing on my part


Elena: oh


Cam: i dont really think you are weak minded


Cam: i only thought that because in that moment it didn’t line up with some ideal i had or have about how people should see the world


Cam: you asked if people knew that the trails around school were used by students


Cam: you asked if anyone was allowed to crawl up on the outdoor stage and perform like that bassist


Elena: i know you are being upfront and honest with me and i appreciate that but somehow this new angle hurts quite a lot more and i hadn’t realized the depth or meaning of your comment i guess and now i want to go take a shower


Cam: and i just thought and said without considering the thought that you look for permission too much and you have some kind of ‘domesticated’ way of thinking


Elena: i didn’t know i look for permission too much


Cam: that might not have been my exact thought


Cam: either way i was judging your character which i promised myself i wouldn’t do until i myself had nothing about my character that could be criticized


Cam: which will be never


Elena: i just feel worse


Cam: im sorry


10:25 pm

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